Don't worry, they're not actually killing it

"She's killing it."

How often have you heard a friend say this about someone? Or better yet, has anyone said it to you? How does it make you feel? It's meant to be a compliment, but can it weaken your confidence?

I remember when this phrase started to gain popularity. I was still working at a full-time job, and every time someone said it, I thought "Oh man, he/she IS killing it!" 

But then one day, someone said it to me...me! And I definitely didn't feel like I was "killing it." I mean, I hadn't even left my day job yet! But I was flattered and wondered what made them say it.

My reaction to, "Autumn, you're killing it!"
Photo by Angela Fortin Studio Photography

​Over the past year, I've talked to other people who have been referred to as folks who were "killing it," and they feel the same way. Some of them have only recently started a new business or project and are still figuring it out. Others aren't yet making enough money to support themselves, and they certainly don't feel like they're "killing it." There are even some who are so stressed from the work that they're doing, that it doesn't seem worth it to be complimented with such a phrase.

And that's ok. It's all ok. No matter if you're using the phrase or receiving the phrase, know that it's intended to be a compliment, and that's it. If you said it, you probably made the person feel good. If you received it, congrats, people see what you're doing and believe in you!

Just like the old adage, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder," so is "he/she is killing it." It's all about perception, and has nothing to do with truth. Those being told they're "killing it" are not perfect - because no one is! Don't let others' hard work and accolades tear down your confidence about whatever it is that you're pursuing.

You're doing great. Keep going. I believe in you.

Happy Friday!
Autumn